i do not mean to make any "pasaring" or whatever. and this goes to everyone (i intend) so don't go saying "pinatatamaan niya ako" or "sorry lang" or whatever. i'll really pounce on anyone who'd do that.
and don't go proofreading this. hahaha.
anyway. here goes.
i do believe that friends do not exist to make your life become the ideal (life, i mean). we (i use "we" because i'm kinda including myself. as a friend. and as a person. hahaha) may be here to make it perfect, but perfect does not equate to ideal, though one may take them as synonyms or whatever.
no.
excuse me but no one lives to please anyone, not in the least to please F-R-I-E-N-D-S. if you are a friend, don't expect that your friends should please you, meaning anything they do that you do not like will almost make you hate them. true, we get as much disappointments from friends as we do from enemies. might be even more, now that i think about it.
it's good to do one thing at a time, like listening, giving advices, confiding, leaning, hugging. but not all the time. i have proven that with the help of someone. i mean, even seeing all the time the person you want to be always with is tiresome at times. you get to realize that you wish you could go back to feeling the yearning inside you. the longing to see that person again. and again. but i'm well off my point now! anyway, what i want to say is, don't go tiring your friends, because even if it shouldn't be, or rather it seems it shouldn't be, but friends get tired too, you know.
don't go always worrying them or they'll end up being indifferent.
heed their advices but do not depend on them like you don't know how to think at all.
and don't go thinking that scars do nothing but remind you of the wound that caused it. it should, you know, that's really what it's for. but then, you should know as well that you might not want to add more scars or re-open the wound or anything, so don't brood over these matters every moment of your life.
i also think that if you have anything you wish to tell your friend, or friends, either you go tell him/her straight or wait until they don't bother you anymore. so even if you think he/she is having a big bubble as a head and you really wish you could pop it or something like that and you wish that he stops existing or anything, sabihin mo na lang, utang na loob. mag-sorry kung magso-sorry. i-confront kung ico-confront. yakapin kung gusto yakapin. don't wait for the right time, because it will never come.
and don't be bothered by what he would say or do after you told him whatever it is you want to tell him. dear me. who cares about what should happen? what should you do? no one, really. everyone just guesses, but you are the one who'll do the making. basta. tangina. wag niyo nang hintayin na sumabog na lahat ng stars sa kalangitan o kaya si Jadis ay nandito na sa mundo natin at ginagawa ng winter ang buong panahon.
and don't go finding other people that you have a similar opinion against anyone. i say, anyone, not anything. it's a bad habit, you know. it's like you're conspiring against this someone. nakakairita e.
and really, never expect anyone to CHANGE as if that's as easy as changing your underwears. ilabas niyo lahat ng gusto ninyong ilabas, pero don't expect an immediate change. don't even desire for the change you want. basta. yung tipong, ang sama-sama niya, tapos nasabi mo na sa kanya na masama siya, tapos ineexpect mo the next day kabaliktaran na siya. tae. magbasa kayo ng Narnia, para masaya. a person will change when he/she feels he/she ought to.
wala lang.
these friendship issues and all. syempre, affected din ako sa lahat ng sinabi ko. i realized them, but i don't think they'll sink that fast. they're hard to accept, i know. syempre nagawa ko na rin lahat yan. naranasan ko nang makinig, pakinggan, balewalain, pagalitan, pagkaisahan, pag-usapan, at i-backstab ng mga kaibigan ko. er. of course, i still regard some of those who backstabbed me as friends, because i don't think someone has done so. yet. and i think, i mean. hahaha.
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